Fact is, being a man by today’s standards is, by all accounts, kind of boring. As I’ve said before, being a functioning adult Male is mundane to say the least when compared to what toxic masculinity offers. Feminists want you to stop indulging in violent power fantasies, playing around with misogynistic imagery, and for the love of god actually learn to be in touch with one’s feelings. In a world where every love interest looks like a model, men grow up loathing and entitled but also longing for a world where being what is the norm just isn’t it. For as much as social justice has promised us a more equal and fair world, it has also given us a boring one. As it feels, no minority can be bad, no woman can be wrong, and any underrepresented group must be first at bat or the whole thing is boring.
Trust me, I get it, social justice leaves the modern world where everything isn’t sufficient in being progressive enough if it isn’t the vanguard, but fails to understand that we all can’t find joy in everything being the most edgy around. Most of us want more LGBT representation, but it’s hard to be happy with what we see if every Yahoo with a camera gets to upload videos about how it didn’t do enough, as though less is somehow violence against said group. And by less, I mean what was done without the extra added.
Finding one’s identity, even in fiction, is hard. As a culture, we used to just find simple identities, but I fear we’ve reached the point where it’s not that simple anymore, and I think that’s why you have so many young men buying into the fantasy of being “the alpha Male” as was proven years ago, the idea of the alpha Male Wolf was a misread myth. The alpha was the Male wolf that was the best parent, only in enclosures were alphas the most violent. But that I fear is what many men feel; as though what escapism allows is getting limited.
As much as it sound like I’m defending it, fact is, the number of Male figures you see on TV that play more to what the average heterosexual Male wants is limited. And I say that as an observation, so spare me the mocking “male tears meme. Fact is, so many men buy into the alpha Male fantasy when they get into martial arts, music, fashion, or whatever because not enough appeals to them as far as what they could be AND woke. In a nutshell, the woke paradigm for Male imagery feels less fun and more like austere virtue signaling. Where is the bad ass who respects women? Where is the hero that has friends who are people of color and gay? Hell, where is the straight Male hero that has healthy relationships with women AND fucks?
Fact is, men go toxic because social justice seems to have a tendency to tell men to live like Eunuchs almost and bringing it up is seen as taboo. Seriously, If you wonder why nothing seems to speak to guys who go MGTOW or the like, consider that we as a society have become so politically correct that we have no room for even playful transgressive entertainment. Its why shows like Arrow are so popuar: its a guy kicking ass and shooting people. In this climate, I can see how vigilante justice leaves a bad taste in peoples mouths, but understand that everyone else gets their fix as a far as ideological escapism and pretending that wokeness means we now have to be that admittedly weird guy that has way too much wonder woman memorabilia or the like is painful to say the least. The cop lovers and military lovers get a show or movie every other year if not every year, the spy people get theres, the girl detective lovers get theirs on PBS, everyone watches superhero movies, but what becomes of the guy who wants a masculine hero that isn’t a terrible person to minorities?
I ask this because if you wonder what drives men to be MGTOWs or drop out of society culture wise, its this; this being the fact that social justice keeps narrowing the margin for what won’t elicit complaints as far as things we see in pop culture. We can’t go back in history because then a discussion of how sexist or homophobic that culture was, we can’t go forward because then people will wonder why certain concepts like gender or race or sexuality still exist, and we can’t stay here because then it becomes a question of why we don’t exist in a alternate society than the one we live in. its not that society can’t be imagined to be more woke, its that often what social justice imagines as a world they wish they wanted is a nice world, but it isn’t interesting just on the pieces they’ve imagined themselves. A world where superman is a woman, or the president is a black woman, or the villains are basically nazis or even that the military has fully integrated women into it where women are in high rankings is a good thing, but what are we HERE for? What is female superman’s regular life like? What’s it look like for the black female president running for reelection? Are there countries that the evil nazi guys are legit allies with? Are the female generals happy with their job? And don’t give me the excuse that when their men we don’t ask these questions as I ask them more to flesh out the non white male characters than most fiction does.